Bishops’ For Your Marriage Website Offers Ideas for ‘Cheap’ Dates

With tough economic conditions impacting families, The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) "For Your Marriage" Web site offers ten suggestions for romantic, low-cost dates. From planning an indoor "picnic" to "midnight bowling," the ideas can inspire couples to be creative date planners.

"We came up with these low-cost ideas for time together as well as some articles that focus on family finances, which is a leading cause of marital stress," said Sheila Garcia, associate director of the USCCB Secretariat of Laity, Marriage, Family Life and Youth, and lead staff for the project.

The "For Your Marriage" Website, located at www.foryourmarriage.org, stands as a key component of the USCCB's multi-year effort to promote the value of married life. The site was launched in June 2007 and now sports a new look and content. The page also is available on the social networking sites Facebook, YouTube, Twitter and the bookmark site, Delicious.

"The new home page has a clean, uncluttered look with photos and headlines that point to the newest content," Garcia said. "We're also using some of the new social media Web sites that are popular ways that people connect."

The updated Website also includes a "toolkit" for Webmasters and others who want to spread the word about resources on www.foryourmarriage.org. The toolkit contains animated banner ads using Adobe Flash programming that automatically updates the ads with new content from the Web site. There are also static ads for other applications.

Another new campaign element are billboards now seen across the country in space donated by outdoor ad companies.

"They're in several major markets including Baltimore, Charleston, Chicago, Miami, Minneapolis, Milwaukee, and San Antonio," said Patricia Ryan Garcia, assistant director of the USCCB's Digital Media Office.

Radio and television public service ads also are part of the marriage campaign. The third and newest set of messages was released in December and invites viewers and listeners to visit the Web site.

To date, Nielsen Media Research reports that six "For Your Marriage" TV messages have been broadcast a total of 38,300 times. Mediaguide reports that the seven radio messages aired a total of 155,000 times.

The entire "For Your Marriage" project was made possible through a grant from the Catholic Communication Campaign.

Internet pornography workshop helps seminarians become better ministers

The statistics are staggering: U.S. adults spend more than $3,000 per second on Internet pornography; 25 million U.S. adults spend 1-10 hours per week engaged with Internet pornography; 10 percent of U.S. adults admit to an Internet sex addiction.

Addiction to Internet pornography is so pervasive that seminaries are searching for ways to provide future priests with the tools to aid those struggling with the addiction.

Achieving this goal was brought one step closer as almost 100 formation directors and seminarians gathered at St. Paul’s College in Washington, D.C., Jan. 18 for a workshop titled, “Caught in the Web: Internet Pornography Addiction and Resources for Healing.”

“The more we know, the more compassionate we can be when people come to us with these issues,” said seminar leader Kathleen Gallaher, Ph.D. “There are moral and religious issues regarding the use of money that goes into Internet pornography and the amount of time spent on it. … It can stack up to years of a person’s life and destroy relationships.”

Internet pornography goes far beyond the inquisitive adolescent male getting his first glimpse of a racy magazine, Ms. Gallaher said.

“The level of hard core exposure at such a young age without someone to process it with can really affect that person into adulthood,” she said.

Internet pornography is so compelling, said Ms. Gallaher, because of the anonymity (you don’t have to show yourself at a public place to obtain it), the accessibility (the Internet does not close), and the affordability (some sites are even free), and the instant gratification.

“You never get to the end of the Internet like you do a magazine,” she said. “There is no natural stopping point.”

Some of the tools Ms. Gallaher suggested to help those struggling with Internet sex addiction include:

• Using e-mail accounts with effective spam blockers (such as Yahoo)
• Installing filtering and tracking software
• Placing the computer in a public are in the home
• Placing a photo of a loved one near the computer
• Try an Internet fast: only log on when there is a specific goal to achieve
• Create a “first aid kit” for when you are struggling with your addiction: people to call who know your struggle; a list of 10 things you hate about being addicted to Internet porn; a favorite poem
• Keep a list of online and other resources for recovery to sex addiction, such as Sex Addicts Anonymous (sexaa.org).

Father Dave Pivonka, T.O.R., brought 10 seminarians to the workshop because “they are going to be in ministry where people are struggling” with Internet sex addiction.

“The exposure to the issue and the tools to help others will help them be more effective ministers,” he said. “The issue is all pervasive. Someone they encounter will be affected by it.”

* Statistics gathered from MSNBC.com, toptenreview.com and alexa.com.

New CatholicTV Show: Dynamics of the Local Parish

Starting in March, CatholicTV will air a new television series called “parishFamily” which looks at the local parish. Father Robert Reed, who co-hosts the show says that, “On a very basic level, a parish is a family. It’s a family of families. If you are Catholic, then you belong to a parish, either by active participation or by geography.”

CatholicTV, is a nationally-broadcasted television station headquartered near Boston.

“parishFamily” is about the culture that exists in a parish and how Catholics must work to build a bright Catholic future. Dr. Melanie Morey and Father Reed spend some time sitting in the pews and discussing the parish as the place where Catholic culture is nurtured, sustained and transmitted.

“parishFamily” is hosted by Dr. Melanie Morey and Fr. Robert Reed. Dr. Morey has worked for thirty-five years in the areas of education and administration. Her main areas of expertise are Catholic culture, leadership, institutional identity, and governance. Dr. Morey is the co-founder of Substantially Catholic Summer Seminars Integrating the Catholic Intellectual Tradition and co-author of the book, Renewing Parish Culture: Building for a Catholic Future. Fr. Robert Reed was once a Pastor of a parish and understands very well the challenges of managing a parish.

Topics discussed on the show include: Mass attendance, reconciliation, religious education of children, the priest shortage and pastors, lay leadership, finances, and politics.

“parishFamily” will begin airing in March at the following times (EST). Monday-8PM; Tuesday- 11AM; Wednesday- 4AM; Thursday- 12:30PM & 9PM; Saturday- 3:30PM; Sunday 4:00AM.

The show is viewable on CatholicTV where available and is also streamed live (simultaneously) at www.CatholicTV.com. The show will also be offered in the archives and will be viewable full-screen now for free. CatholicTV is a non-profit corporation.

Aaron Thompson CD released: "10,000 Angels"

Musical artist, husband, and father Aaron Thompson has released his newest recording “10,000 Angels” with World Library Publications (www.wlpmusic.com). This project has been long in the making as Aaron has reflected over the years as a church music director, composer, and family man, mixing the complexities of ministry and family life.

As a music minister, Thompson has personally witnessed the power of music in the lives of spiritual seekers working through concepts of redemption and mercy, humility and courage. He hopes that this new CD will reach out especially to all those who have wandered away from the Church and wish to find a way home. His heartfelt themes and upbeat praise tunes all point to the glory of God and the warmth of forgiveness, healing, and redemption that God offers.

As an African-American father of four, ages 15, 9, 4, and 3, Aaron has been inspired by his experiences of raising children with his wife Marian in this age of media, fast-paced lifestyles, soccer, and Barbie dolls. “Juggling work in the Church and family responsibilities is a challenge,” says Aaron “…and I can really relate to what families are dealing with in their lives.” He wrote a special song for his daughter titled “Wings” that will bring a tear to the eye of every daddy who has experienced the joy of his little girl. He hopes that his music will bring families together to celebrate the goodness of God in their lives.

Aaron grew up in Glencoe,Illinois, as a member of the few black families living in the area. His father was a lawyer and his mother a teacher. His early Catholic formation was at Sacred Heart Church where his mom also sang in the choir. He excelled in music as a trumpet player and was granted a full performance scholarship at Northern Arizona University. He lived in Phoenix directing parish music ministry for several years and recently moved to Madison,WI, to work as the Director of Music at St.Thomas Aquinas Catholic Church.

Aaron’s music is published by World Library Publications and is found in hymnals across the country. This new CD also includes some of his top pieces including, “Rise Up in Splendor,” “Blessed One,” and “Tree of Life.” Aaron also does a stupendous cover of “Indescribable” written by Chris Tomlin.

10,000 Angels,WLP product #008163, ISBN #978-158459-4246 is now available through World Library Publications (www.wlpmusic.com) or call toll-free at 1.800.566.6150. Soundclips are available on the product page. In digital format, it can be downloaded from iTunes, Amazon, eMusic, and several other digital stores. The CD is also available to the trade through Ingram/Spring Arbor Distributors.